Watch this video [1:16] to see how to handle the blame game.

When I process with children, the most important thing is to get them to own their own actions.

I ask questions, such as: “What happened?”

“This child did this!”

“And how did you respond?”

At first I might hear, “Well, he did this first. He caused me to do this. He took this from me. She did this. The other kids did this.”

But I will not let that child go until they say to me, “I punched Mickey in the face.”

OK, now we’re getting somewhere.

They can’t change their behavior until they own it.
 
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