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Behavior: can I sit with my friends?

Date: March 1st, 2017
By: Polly Bath

Polly Bath: Some of the kids will ask me, “Can I sit with my friends?” My initial answer is, “Absolutely, you can sit with your friends. But if I have to come over there, talk to you, and I have to move you, one of you will have to move. If you give me a hard time and you don’t move, then tomorrow you will not be able to ask me if you can sit with your friends.”

If I go over there, ask you to move, you move, we’re good. Tomorrow, you come in and say, “Can I sit with my friends?” I say, “Absolutely, but you know if I have to come over…” They go, “Yeah, if you have to come over once…”

About 6, 8, 10, 20 times, they finally get that. They’re able to now sit with their friends without a problem. If they give me a hard time, they won’t move, and they come and ask me the next day, “Can I sit with my friends?” I’m going to say, “No, you absolutely cannot sit with your friends because, when I asked you to move yesterday, you did not move.”

That, to me, is teaching a skill.